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sex_ADHD sex empathy communication intimacy ADHD vlogs: ADHD & Sex #4: the power of touch: Both my wife and I are guilty of not hearing the other person. She will tell me, “I’ll be in my office.” Twenty minutes later, I’m searching the house for her. My statement of “I’m going down to the garden” appears to fall on deaf ears. Sep-16-2023

ADHD & Sex #4: the power of touch

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Both my wife and I are guilty of not hearing the other person. She will tell me, “I’ll be in my office.” Twenty minutes later, I’m searching the house for her. My statement of “I’m going down to the garden” appears to fall on deaf ears when she asks me where I’ve been for the last hour, followed by a reply of “You could have told me you were going down there.”

“But I did tell you” is something we both often find ourselves saying with little consolation to our feelings or assuage any potential frustration, anger, or resentment towards our partner.

Rather than solely rely on verbal communication, we have found a better way to connect with the ADHD brain is to combine talk with touch.

Reach out and touch your partner’s shoulder or their arm. This touch creates one more moment of connected attention to bring your partner’s focus into the conversation. With their focus in the conversation, make eye contact and then share what you want to say. The physical, visual, and auditory connection may make a world of difference.

One might ask how this non-sexual touch and communication relates to sex. The answer, as Chris our certified sex therapist says: most people don’t want to have sex when they’re not happy with their partner. Feeling seen, heard, and acknowledged by your partner helps build safety, respect, and happiness in your relationship.



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Tommy Underhill TTCD, ASDCS, ASDI Sex, Adult ADHD & Adult Autism

Tommy specializes in working with adults with ADHD and autism through a neurophysiological lens for social, relational, and sex issues. He oversees the long-term and strategic management for Littleton Couple’s Counseling. His entrepreneurship and small business management and operations span more than 30 years. Tommy is the Editor-in-Chief of the International Journal of Psychosexual Therapy. In his spare time, he runs a halfway house for wayward and abused orchids.

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